It’s Valentine’s Day!! (Traveler’s Edition). So let’s talk about love!
But first a word of caution:
To any travelers who want to avoid future heartbreak, it is important to keep in mind that love and sex on the road are usually not interchangeable. Especially in hostels of 18-25 year olds drinking, partying, eating and showering under one roof, hook-ups become inevitable. It is similar to university dorms, but without the commitment. In university, frequent hook-ups can be awkward since you’re living with the same people for an entire year. In hostels, it’s almost a free pass. Travelers come and go, and the person you hook up with one night, probably won’t be around the next.
Okay, let’s go first with sex.
Where does it begin?
If you’re at least decent looking, it is fairly easy to hook up with someone, especially after a few drinks. Travelers are more willing to make a first move, especially toward girls/guys they may feel “out of their league,” because of the mentality that they’ll never see them again after that day. You’ve already given up the comforts of your home to venture to the other side of the world, so sending a few drinks to the person you find cute doesn’t seem like much of a gamble…
Making First Impressions
First impressions are key when traveling, because most travelers meet so many people a day, it’s hard to remember who is who. Whether people admit to it or not, there’s always an air of superficiality when it comes to travelers. There’s a saying that goes, “women decide within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy if she will sleep with him,” which certainly has some truth to it. Travelers want bragging rights, and they want to show their friends pictures of the hot foreigner they’ve hooked up with, so being well-groomed goes a long way.
Where does it take place?
Depending on how you look at it, there can either be a lot of places or very limited places to hook up while traveling. The most common is in hostels, where the majority of travelers reside. One thing I have to say though, is that having sex in a hostel dorm full of people is not cool, especially to those who are really loud doing it. We are here to travel, not to involuntarily be in a porno. If you’re looking for some alternative places to hook up in a hostel, this guy has some interesting ideas (clearly this was written before The Hangover came out).
It seems lame to feel heartbroken by someone you barely know, so don’t be. If love doesn’t happen, find another adventure. It can be tough, but we are travelers. We are intrepid, after all. Remember, if you don’t seek it, it will come to you. “Ask yourself this question: Will this matter a year from now?” – Richard Carlson
While that one steamy night might have turned into actual love, there’s a lot of bumps before you can sail into the sunset. One thing you could do is to make sure that you stay on top of things and keep yourself healthy by getting tested using a site like STDCheck.com. Another problem is geographic as location is usually a big issue when it comes to beginning relationships with other travelers. Most likely, you live in different countries, if not continents, and there’s always that inevitable doom of the end of a trip. Where does it go from here? If you’ve already made it that far, well, congrats! All relationships can be difficult, and love on the road certainly isn’t impossible. For those travelers who make long-term relationships work, all the hard work obviously pays off well.